The Happya Life with Clare Deacon
What if thriving isn’t about having it all together but finally feeling at home in your own skin?
Welcome to The Happya Life with Clare Deacon, the podcast for women ready to move from survival mode to self-worth, nervous system healing, and emotional freedom.
If you feel stuck in people-pleasing, overwhelmed by self-doubt, or burned out from always doing more, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.
💬 We talk boundaries, burnout, emotional regulation, trauma recovery, nervous system work, and creating a life that actually feels good (not just looks good).
I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of Blooming Happya. I combine science, soul, and strategy to help women stop performing and start becoming.
In each episode, you’ll get:
- Practical tools and nervous system insights
- Real talk on trauma, boundaries, and rebuilding your self-worth
- Coaching grounded in neuroscience, embodiment, and positive psychology
This is where self-help meets self-connection.
🎧 Ready to heal the patterns holding you back and start living from your truth?
Press play. This is where your transformation begins.
Episodes
77 episodes
The Guilt That Shows Up When You Say No (And Why It’s Actually a Good Sign)
Why does something as simple as saying “no” feel so unbearably hard? Why does guilt creep in even when you know you're doing what’s right for you?In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon breaks down the nervous system science an...
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Season 1
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Episode 69
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23:12
Overthinking, Overfeeling: Finding Calm in the Chaos
Do you feel like you live in your head and your heart, all the time?That your thoughts won’t switch off, and your emotions feel louder than everyone else’s?This episode is for the woman who feels like she’s spiralling. Who replays...
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Season 1
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Episode 68
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17:50
Why Your Nervous System Won’t Let You Relax (And How to Work With It, Not Against It)
Why can’t I relax, even when I finally have the time? If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you’re not alone and you’re not broken.In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, trauma-informed therapist and positi...
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Season 1
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Episode 67
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17:48
What Is Post-Traumatic Growth (And Could You Be In It Already?)
You’re not the same after what you’ve lived through, but what if that’s not a setback? What if it’s the beginning of becoming?In this transformative episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive p...
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Season 66
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Episode 1
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12:45
Lost Yourself? How to Rebuild Who You Really Are
You’ve been everything for everyone, the mum, the leader, the caretaker, the high achiever.But now something’s shifted.And you’re left wondering... who am I, really?This episode is for the woman quietly realising she no lon...
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Season 1
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Episode 65
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12:14
Are you Boundaried or Just Avoiding? How to Tell the Difference
You say you’re protecting your peace…But are you really protecting yourself from discomfort?This episode is for the women who’ve said “I’m setting boundaries” but deep down suspect they might just be pulling away. If you’ve ever avo...
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Season 1
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Episode 64
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15:59
How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding (Even When You’re Triggered)
Do you find yourself snapping, shutting down, or spiralling and then wondering, why did I react like that?You’re not overreacting. You’re overtriggered.And your nervous system is doing exactly what it was trained to do, protect yo...
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Season 1
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Episode 63
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12:17
Anxious in Overdrive? Calm Your Nervous System in 5 Minutes
Does your mind race even when nothing’s wrong?Do you feel wired but exhausted, unable to fully relax, yet desperate to slow down?You’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.In this episode of The H...
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Season 1
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Episode 62
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15:27
The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat)
The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat)Are you high-functioning, holding it all together on the outside but quietly falling apart inside?In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon unpacks the...
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Season 1
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Episode 61
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21:10
Trusting Yourself Again (Even After You’ve Broken Your Own Promises)
Have you ever told yourself, “This time will be different” only to slip back into old patterns? Maybe you swore you’d rest more, stop people-pleasing, or set firmer boundaries… but life got messy, and you broke your own promise. A...
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Season 1
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Episode 60
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15:49
The Invisible Load That’s Draining You (And Why You Can’t Keep Carrying It)
Are you feeling constantly overwhelmed, even when your day looks “normal” on paper? Do you find yourself snapping at the people you love, forgetting simple things, or feeling like you’re never truly rested, no matter how much sleep you get?...
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Season 1
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Episode 59
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19:13
Boundaries That Don’t Backfire: Protecting Yourself With Heart
Boundaries That Don’t Backfire: Protecting Yourself With HeartHave you ever set a boundary, only to feel guilty, misunderstood, or like you caused more conflict than peace?In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare...
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Season 1
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Episode 58
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19:54
Unlearning Survival Mode: The Courage to Live Differently
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what it really means to break free from chronic survival mode and begin building a life that supports nervous system safety, emotional regulation, and true thriving....
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Season 1
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Episode 57
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18:17
When You’re Everything to Everyone… But Nothing to Yourself
Are you the strong one? The dependable one? The one who’s always holding it all together… even when you’re falling apart inside?This episode is for the women who do it all and feel like they’ve lost themselves in the process.Traum...
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Season 1
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Episode 56
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15:51
Why Your Trauma Doesn’t Define You (Even If It Feels Like It Does)
Have you ever felt like your trauma has become your whole identity? Like the pain, the grief, the chaos it’s all shaped who you are so deeply that you can’t remember who you were before it?In this deeply affirming episode, Clare Deacon, ...
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Season 1
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Episode 55
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18:38
You’re Allowed to Change: Letting Go of Old Versions of You
You’re Allowed to Change: Letting Go of Old Versions of YouWhy does growth feel so uncomfortable, even when we want it? In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed t...
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Season 1
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Episode 54
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15:46
The Biggest Myths About Trauma Recovery That Keep You Stuck
Is your healing journey making you feel like you're doing it wrong? In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach, trauma-informed therapist, and founder of Happya, debunks the five most d...
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Season 1
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Episode 53
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17:10
The Freeze Response: When You Feel Stuck and Can’t Move Forward
Have you ever felt like you’re functioning on the outside but disconnected on the inside? Like life is carrying on around you, but you’re not quite in it?That’s the freeze response a powerful, protective state triggered by overwhelm, tra...
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Season 1
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Episode 52
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17:07
Manifesting Your Future: The Power of Intentional Action
If you've ever rolled your eyes at the idea of "manifesting your dream life," you're not alone. When you’ve been stuck in survival mode, worn out from giving everything to everyone, and quietly wondering if this is all life has to offer, the co...
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Season 1
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Episode 51
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16:00
The Loneliness of Healing: How to Find the Right People
No one tells you how lonely healing can feel.When you’re growing, setting boundaries, and finally honouring your truth… sometimes the phone stops ringing. The invitations dry up. And suddenly you’re standing in the in-between, no ...
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Season 1
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Episode 50
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14:52
Why You're Stuck in Survival Mode (And How to Break Free)
You’re functioning, but it doesn’t feel like living. If you’ve ever felt like you’re white-knuckling your way through life, barely catching your breath between one emotional loop and the next… this episode is for you.In Ep...
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Season 1
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Episode 49
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17:28
Love After Trauma: Healing, Trust, and Relationships
Struggling to trust again after betrayal, heartbreak, or grief? This episode is your permission slip to heal on your terms.Whether you’ve been widowed, divorced, ghosted, or simply stretched thin by years of emotional caretaking, ...
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Season 1
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Episode 48
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14:00
Healing While Holding It All Together: How to Cope
In this heartfelt episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed positive psychology coach and therapist Clare Deacon gets real about the impossible juggling act of healing from trauma while still keeping life moving. Whether you'...
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Season 1
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Episode 47
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14:43
Why Rest is the Most Underrated Productivity Hack
In this soul-soothing episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed positive psychology coach and therapist Clare Deacon invites you to rethink everything you’ve been told about rest, productivity, and worth.If you’ve ever...
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Season 1
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Episode 46
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16:17
From Self-Doubt to Self-Belief: The Road to Confidence
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon goes beyond surface-level affirmations and into the real, messy journey of building authentic self-belief....
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Season 1
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Episode 45
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